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It's been over sixty years since our country gained independence, but Indian women are still not allowed to move independently. Though woman is worshipped here as Goddess here, people can't just restrain from committing atrocities against them. Women here experience many hardships at various places right from home to working places.
I have heard some time ago that in developed countries like America, the couples do household works together, but it is not the case in India. Here, women have to do the household works alone while the husbands sit in front of the TV or read the newspaper slouching in a couch. After about eight to twelve hours of work, a typical working woman in India has to return home and make food for the rest of the family. There are , of course, husbands who help wives, but majority of husbands fall into the other category.
Another problem that many of the women in rural areas of India face is that they can't move about freely at nights. I am a small village girl who visits Mumbai at times. Things in metropolitian cities are really different and I have thought a thousand times like how good it could have been had I been living in a city like Mumbai. In my village, women can't go out after six in the evening without the fear of being chased eve teasers.Dowry system in India is actually illegal according to the laws. But the laws imposed have not removed the curse of the system completely. A girls's family is forced to give some amount of money or gold while she gets married. Whatever may be the lumpsome amount given, the in-laws are never satisfied and once the girl enters their house, they torture both the girl and her family, insisting to give them more dowry. Although all the cited problems occur frequently, very few are reported.
The biggest of all crimes against married woman is wife-beating. It is regarded the biggest crime next to rape. Several incdents have been reported in which wives were burnt alive or killed by some other means by their in-laws and husbands. But, as said earlier, the reported cases form only a miniscule of the actual number. I am not saying that there are no one here to take action against these crimes, but I would like to point out that the jurisdiction seems to be too slow in taking actions. There are programs creating awareness amoong people about crimes against women, but you cannot change someone unless he wish to do so. Changes should be done starting from the individual level. The biggest curse of our society is that it is dominated by a pack of male chauvenists, who can't just accept that women are also human beings. Unless these people try to change their minds, this society cannot prosper.
A true incident ( names undisclosed to protect privacy)
I would like to apologise if my words hurt anyone's feelings, but I am frustrated by an incident that occurred in my family. One of my relatives got married to a guy studying in college. Theirs was a love marriage.
After marriage, the guy started to show his real character. He began beating his wife for silly reasons ( for eg. he would beat her if she was in kitchen and din't hear him if he called her). She was working in a BPO company but had to resign because she could't afford to do all the household works and work at the company at the same time.
When she became pregnant, she went to her parents ( according to tradition) and told her miseries to them. Then, this guy tried to find out the sex of the baby. But since it was a good doctor, he din't allow him to know. In the meantime, the parents asked him why he was beating his wife and the man exploded and went out of the house, vowing that he will never enter the place again.
They now live separately and could break up at any moment. But conditions are just too complex. Now, she lives with her parents and her baby at their house. The worst part of it is that the guy doesn't even give them money to live. Their case is still being heard at the local family court.
Do you think it was not wise of her to complain about her husband's conduct to her parents? No? But the In-laws believe it is. Do you think it was her fault that they got a baby girl? No? But the in-laws believe it is. Do you think it was her fault to be not able to manage chores at home and job at an outsourcing company? No? I'm surprised. How could you think like that when the in-laws think the other way around? Huh!
I guess above incident has helped you to realise how serious the problem is. If at all a girl is just fed up with and hate this mediocre society, can you blame her? I am puzzled at how to react at these incidents. You are encourages to post your valuable comments.on how to tackle this problem
